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How to Write a Simple and Rocking 1ST Step, by Stephen Girard

There are many ways to do a 1st step, and this is just one of them. The one I am presenting here is based on my spiritual experience with the step, and is by no means the best or most effective. However, I have found that the people I work with love its simple and focused approach.

If you have seen the David Letterman talk show, which is filmed right down the street from my pad in New York, you have probably seen one of David’s Top 10 lists. This is the same concept for this 1st step suggestion.

The first step: “We admitted we were powerless over X and that our lives had become unmanageable.” For most of us this means if we put X into our bodies, we are completely powerless over the outcome and our ability to stop.
So, for the purposes of this 1st step list, we’ll focus on “unmanageability.”

Make a list 1 though 10, and write down in one sentence or phrase of an example of unmanageability brought about by your alcoholism and/or drug addiction. Below is my sample Top 10 list.

For example:

1. Lighting my apartment on fire three times
2. Not knowing if it would be the last time, and not caring
3. Getting stabbed in a blackout, and having no idea who did it
4. Falling off a fire escape in Seattle
5. Spending the rent money on booze and drugs
6. Being asked to leave schools as a teenager
7. Almost getting shot in my own apartment
8. Passing out in doorways, even when I had a place to stay
9. 3 day blackout in Paris
10.Failed romantic relationships and weak interpersonal relationships

I Highly recommend you create a Top 10 list, laminate it, and put it in a binder for future reference. My experience has been that putting your 1st step down on paper is an excellent denial buster, and helps when you take the 2nd step and want to look at the insanity.

One Response to How to Write a Simple and Rocking 1ST Step, by Stephen Girard

  1. Wow what an awsome podcast. Thank you so much for sharing.

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